Are Celebrities Overexposed????

Do celebrities like the attention? I have wondered that when I read articles and hear comments that the celebrities make about fans, people, and the pap.  Here is my thing and I say it in the beginning so if you do not like it stop reading: they are people. I feel like that as a society we think that we can have an open window and door into are favorite celebrities lives however where does it stop.  Personally, I do not care how much you “love” me, I have personal space.  I do not know if this true, but I know that it would get old.  Everywhere you go you have to be mobbed and screamed at.  I understand that you like them, but I have a true issue with this obsession with celebrities.  If you like them see them in concert, watch their movies, buy their CD, buy their gear, and buy their merchandise.  However, sending death threats and nasty Twitter comments about their significant others is just stupid.  Honestly, who are we to judge who they choose to love or date.  Would you like it if someone treated you like that or judged you like that?

As a society and a culture we need to learn the difference between talented celebrities and reality shows.  Reality shows are not talent shows or a skill show, they are a show that gives a overly personal look into the lives of “famous” people.  Those shows I do not consider worth the time or the energy to watch.

Another issue that arise frequently is when a celebrity is caught hooking up, drunk, high, or shopping at the mall.  Every tabloid, news show, and social media site have an opinion on the issue.  But do are opinion belong in that forum? Would you want people commenting on who you are dating or what you did on Friday night? Honestly, the judging on what people wear is crazy.  I know that it would make me scream knowing that people will be liking or commenting on my outfit.  Imagining living under that great of a microscope.  It would be hard for me to get out of bed and do anything.

Here is my last comment: why get so upset or hyper about someone that you do not like. If you do not like them ignore them. You ignore the co-workers that you do not like, so why can you not change the station on your TV. People need to stop saying the hateful, judgmental, and unnecessary comments about these people lives.  If you do not like them, then have nothing to do with them.  Do not follow them on Twitter, read the articles, or watch them.  Personally, people that I do not like I do not waste my time or energy on, because I do not like them. Honestly, this blog has been a rant.  I am sick of it, why do we think as a society is okay to judge these peoples lives.  I hate to say this but you do not have the authority to judge anyone.  Just because no one cares what is your in your closet does not give you the right to go sticking your nose in others closets.

 

Teachers, Tatoos, and Piercing. Oh NO!!

What and who do you judge? Is it a personality or a just thing about them? Personally I have judged people just from how they look.  There is something that has became an issue because of the fact that teaching is my chosen profession.  The issue is tattoos and piercing.  I have read lots of articles which state support for the teachers to be able to get tattoos and piercings without receiving to much backlash.  My issue is that a tattoo or a piercing will not effect the way that I teach.  So why the big issue.  I think it is because of opinions that have been passed down from generation to generation.   I love tattoos and piercing but have a fear that if I get them I will not get a job.  I understand that the few that we are the role models of our students.  However, I will led them through my actions and me as person. My tattoos and piercings does not effect that side of me.  Here is something else, do we think that role models should look a certain way.  In such a global world should we force people to think that they need to look, act, and be just like that.  No, I became a teacher so that I could cultivate the uniqueness of each of my students, and show them that their differences are what make them great.  I do not want them to be me, I want to become their own person.  I do not mind that they want teachers to represent a certain something.  However, they should also allow us to be own person.  Furthermore, all of are difference will be good for the education system because we live in such global world we need to celebrate the differences and uniqueness.  Plus, as teachers we need to relate to societies.  All of my students like me for me.  I am the funny and crazy teacher who does things to make my student laugh and like school.  I am a behavior specialist, my goal is to get the students I work to like school and school becomes a place that they want to be.  My different approach to teaching works well with my students.  So here is my message let the teachers be who they want,  Lets not tell them who they can be, because we all teaching with a goal and passion to help the children of the next generations.  That means we may have tattoos, piercing, and crazy hair but love us for what we are trying to do.  We became teachers to change the lives of the children in a positive way and have them become there own person.

Working Girl

 

Everywhere I go I see now hiring signs posted everywhere.  However, I hear from so many people that they do not have a job or cannot find one.  Or is it that they want a certain type of job to be happy?  I am young so throughout my college life I have worked several odd and in job, just to have a job and make money.  Our we becoming a generation of entitlement that thinks they can get instead of earn?  For people that do not have a job a job is a job.  It is paying the bills.  Furthermore, if you do a good job you may get a raise.  There are transitional jobs from one job to another, or for a time period.  But do not be unemployed because you are looking and wanting a certain job.

There has been talk to raise the minimum wage. However, my issue is why?  I get that people deserve to make more money but that should be addressed by companies and employers.  I know at my one job that the some people do not deserve a raise because of their lack of good work. However, there are people that do deserve raises.  But to get those raises involve working and earning them.

I think it is very important to have a good work ethic.  Go to work, show up on time, do a good job, and be a good co-worker.  I know it is not fun sometimes to work these jobs but it is important.  It is better to earn something then to get something in the long run.

Family

Is blood really thicker then water? Family are the people that we are born with and share the last name.  However, are they really the people that we are the closest with?  I find that family can be an area that causes me to be the most hurt and upset.  Why is that?  I find that we expect families to support, love, and never hurt us.  However, is that to much to expect from just other human beings that we share a last name with.  Or do we create our own family through are friends that we love?

The definition of family is: “a basic social unit consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not: the traditional family. b. a social unit consisting of one or more adults together with the children they care for: a single-parent family.”   This is the definition of family, but is it the correct definition of family.  Personally I think family can be anyone that you want in your life.  I am close to some members of my family but not all.  I also do think that people should be forced to associate family with those related to you.  Because every where we go we see a reference to family, But to define family just as those who are close to you would for me not be a complete definition.   

Family is whatever we make it to be or create it to be.  Family is the people we are close to and share a mutually bond with.  These are the people that want and wish the best for you in your life.  Wherever you go in the world I hope you take your family with you.  Never allow yourself to view family in one dimension allow it to be what  fits for you and your life.

 

 

 

 

Friendship

What is friendship?  How do we pick and choose our friends?   Do we have a pattern of the type of friends we pick? Or is it just circumstance.  What is it about our friends that appeal to us?

I am asking all these questions because I have been thinking about these questions when
I read and think about friendship.  I think about my friends and the people in my life.  What was it about these people that made me want to be friends with? People choose friends for what reason? Are these people we have class with, family, friends, childhood buddies, co-workers, or we share a mutual friend.  Nerveless these people are the our confidants, we tell them our most personal and private secrets.  However are these people good or bad friends? I have been doing some readings and research about friendship to see if the people I was friends were good or bad friends.

Lets first start with what makes a good friend.  Good friends are trustworthy.  The friend keeps their promises that they make.  Good friends are dependable, when you need them they are there.  They are reliable, if you have an emergency you can always count on them to come through.  A good friend is not afraid to apologize, that means that they say they are sorry.  A good friend has to apologize.  Furthermore a good friend is honest.  You cannot be friend with someone that lies and does not tell you the truth.  Someone that you can connect with on values and views.  A good friend does not use their friends.  A good friendship is about give and take.  Furthermore, if a you have a reputation of using people, new friends will not be easy to find. Be a loyal friend, do not be gossip about you friends.  People want to be friends with people who are loyal and stable. The last one is be respectful.  “During times when you don’t see eye to eye with your friend, disagree respectfully and be willing to see things differently.” You will have disagreements with your friends but during the disagreements be respectful to your friends.

Bad friends, what makes a bad friend?  Is it something they say or do? Are the bad long or short term.  Can one bad action or word end a friendship. Signs of a bad friend,  if your friend is doing this, leave, run they are not good friends.  They are negative borderline insulting.  These friends are unsupportive of what you do and your dreams.  They are not supportive of your achievements.  These friends are jealous, possessive, or envious.  They want what you have, they are jealous of your life, and they want you all to themselves. They do not want you having other friends.  Manipulative friends are bad, they try to control you and they only want you when they need something from you.  These friends are self-centered and selfish.  They only want to talk about themselves and everything involves them.  If it is about something or someone else they are not interested. Furthermore, these friends are dishonest, they lie to you.  Friends that lie are not good, because they will eventually lie about you or too you.  Insincere, they act happy about your success but truly are not, plus they make catty or snide remarks about your success.  A bad friend is someone that is not available to you. They expect you to be available around their schedule but not around yours.  Inconsiderate, they make high demands and inconvenience you but are never truly grateful for what you do for them.   These friends push you do things that you do not feel comfortable with.  If a friend is trying to force you to do something that you do not have peace about, drop the friend and leave.

This blog is all about friendship good and bad friendship.  We all have good friends and bad friends. It is good to know the signs of good and bad friends.

Sources: These are the sources I used for this blog:

10 Traits of a Toxic Friendhttp: //fabafter40.tumblr.com/post/48920901055/10-traits-of-a-toxic-friend

Self-Stairway: http://www.selfstairway.com/how-to-be-a-good-friend/

How to be a Good Friendhttp: //www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Friend

Frienship

What is friendship?  How do we pick and choose our friends?   Do we have a pattern of the type of friends we pick? Or is it just circumstance.  What is it about our friends that appeal to us?

I am asking all these questions because I have been thinking about these questions when
I read and think about friendship.  I think about my friends and the people in my life.  What was it about these people that made me want to be friends with? People choose friends for what reason? Are these people we have class with, family, friends, childhood buddies, co-workers, or we share a mutual friend.  Nerveless these people are the our confidants, we tell them our most personal and private secrets.  However are these people good or bad friends? I have been doing some readings and research about friendship to see if the people I was friends were good or bad friends.

Lets first start with what makes a good friend.  Good friends are trustworthy.  The friend keeps their promises that they make.  Good friends are dependable, when you need them they are there.  They are reliable, if you have an emergency you can always count on them to come through.  A good friend is not afraid to apologize, that means that they say they are sorry.  A good friend has to apologize.  Furthermore a good friend is honest.  You cannot be friend with someone that lies and does not tell you the truth.  Someone that you can connect with on values and views.  A good friend does not use their friends.  A good friendship is about give and take.  Furthermore, if a you have a reputation of using people, new friends will not be easy to find. Be a loyal friend, do not be gossip about you friends.  People want to be friends with people who are loyal and stable. The last one is be respectful.  “During times when you don’t see eye to eye with your friend, disagree respectfully and be willing to see things differently.” You will have disagreements with your friends but during the disagreements be respectful to your friends.

Bad friends, what makes a bad friend?  Is it something they say or do? Are the bad long or short term.  Can one bad action or word end a friendship. Signs of a bad friend,  if your friend is doing this, leave, run they are not good friends.  They are negative borderline insulting.  These friends are unsupportive of what you do and your dreams.  They are not supportive of your achievements.  These friends are jealous, possessive, or envious.  They want what you have, they are jealous of your life, and they want you all to themselves. They do not want you having other friends.  Manipulative friends are bad, they try to control you and they only want you when they need something from you.  These friends are self-centered and selfish.  They only want to talk about themselves and everything involves them.  If it is about something or someone else they are not interested. Furthermore, these friends are dishonest, they lie to you.  Friends that lie are not good, because they will eventually lie about you or too you.  Insincere, they act happy about your success but truly are not, plus they make catty or snide remarks about your success.  A bad friend is someone that is not available to you. They expect you to be available around their schedule but not around yours.  Inconsiderate, they make high demands and inconvenience you but are never truly grateful for what you do for them.   These friends push you do things that you do not feel comfortable with.  If a friend is trying to force you to do something that you do not have peace about, drop the friend and leave.

This blog is all about friendship good and bad friendship.  We all have good friends and bad friends. It is good to know the signs of good and bad friends.

Sources: These are the sources I used for this blog:

10 Traits of a Toxic Friendhttp: //fabafter40.tumblr.com/post/48920901055/10-traits-of-a-toxic-friend

Self-Stairway: http://www.selfstairway.com/how-to-be-a-good-friend/

How to be a Good Friendhttp: //www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Friend

A Cure for the Bad Day Blues

Have you every woke up and felt like this was just going to be a bad day.  Even though you try and say no, it is all in your head.  You feel sick to your stomach or you dread everything.  What is the cause for these bad day blues?  Whats more, what is the cure?

Bad days happen to the best of us, but why. Bad days can come from not getting enough sleep, having a bad dream, having a big project due at work, a meeting, or family function.  These events and forth-comings can have a great affect on our moods.  When something or someone that you do not like or dread can cause you to have a dreadful day.  Just because you do not like it.  It is like your whole body is focused on that one or two problems.  Focusing on your problems or having a rough morning can cause you to have a bad day.  However, their is a cure and it is free but before reading it remember you have to make the choice otherwise the cure will not work.

The bad day cure is you have to focus on something else.  Everyday find one thing to look forward too.  Whether it is talking on the phone, dinner, lunch, breakfast, a hot shower, a foot rub, exercising, or watching TV, you have to find something in everyday to look forward too.  Sometimes the best thing to do is flip the problem, make the positive thing of the day is when the problem is over.  There the problem cannot control you all day.  Furthermore, bad days are going to happen, but you can stop it by choosing to focus your energy on something else.  There will always be bad circumstances but you can choose to find one or two positive things every single day.

Some Great Resources You Have to Read:

Lifehacker: http://lifehacker.com/5595104/the-science-behind-having-a-bad-day-and-how-to-solve-it

Mister Rogers quotes for a bad day: http://mashable.com/2013/12/26/mister-rogers-quotes/

Happiness!!

What is happiness and how do you get it?

Happiness is an interesting topic because everyone has a view and opinion, but what is truly happiness.  Let me start by asking a couple questions: Are you happy? Do you know what makes you happy? Who makes you happy?  What makes you unhappy and why? Who makes you unhappy and why?

Did you answer all my questions, hope you did.  Each of us have different people, circumstances, and passions that makes us happy and unhappy.  However being happy is a choice.  We each control are own happiness, because we choose what we like and what we did not like.  Furthermore,  we live in a world that has an app for everything, but sometimes it is not that easy to click away are problems.  When something bad happens or someone that you do not like gets a promotion at work, choose to not let it bother you.  The biggest point about happiness is that no one can truly make you happy.  People will come and go in your life, only a true few stay so do not depend your happiness on anyone but yourself.

Positive thinking about yourself and your circumstances will increase your happiness.  You have to love and accept who you are before you will ever be happy with your life.  Make a list of the good qualities that you have.  Enjoy spending time alone, thinking about life and your blessings.  If you focus all your energy on positive thoughts then you will not have enough energy to focus on the negative thoughts.

Happiness is choice that you have to make.  Choose to love and live your life without the weight of circumstances make you unhappy.

Here are some great resources I found:

Psychology Today: http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/happiness

Authernitc Happiness: http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/Default.aspx

Cats vs. Dog People

Cats and dogs are suppose to be enemies, rivals for the cause to receive human attention.  However, I do not understand this obsession with the cats vs. dogs.  I will admit I am crazy cat lady.  I have four cats, but what truly gets me is when people assume that cats are these evil animals.  Many people say cats are not attached to their people, they refer to cats as moody, mean, and they do not truly care about anyone but themselves.  However many of these people do not like or own cats.  Why do you say things about something you know nothing about.  For example: I do not own dogs, I like dogs their funny and sweet.  But I would not assume that dogs have all these bad qualities, just because the dog own my street is mean.  Overall, I am just sick of the bad press and treatment that cats receive.  My cats are all very sweet, playful, friendly, and the opposite of how people portray cats. I believe that all animals can be bad or good.  It all depends on what we do as their caretakers.  My cats are the way they are because we have taken good care of them.  However, if you neglect or treat them badly they will not trust or like humans.  Lets make a goal to start treating animals whether dogs, cats, birds, rabbits, or horses right.  After all they are part of the family!!

Here are my four babies!!!

Tinkerbell

Rascal

Nancy Drew

 Swiss Miss

Meaningful Relationships.

What is a Meaningful Relationship

Relationships, we all have relationships with our family, friends, co-workers, classmates, etc.  These people affect our lives and our opinions.  These relationships are the social circles we live in.  However are these relationship with these people healthy, happy, respectful, caring, mutual, or are the relationships out of obligation.  If these relationship do not have any qualities of which I mentioned these relationships are not meaningful relationship.

Meaningful relationships are when two people respect, care, invest, and give quality care to their friends.  They invest in your life.  The relationship is honest and truthful.  That means that the relationship may not always be rainbows and sunshine.  They are going to be the people that are the most honest and truthful about jobs, families, friends, and how you look in a dress.  These people care so much about you that they will not lie to you, hide things from, and they will be the most active in your life.

I read an article about meaningful relationships, the author wrote about three secrets to creating and having more meaningful relationships.  The first one:Notice and act on your desire to connect with others.  This means that if you want to be with someone then call them, Facebook message them, and text just to say hello.   Those acts mean a lot to people, it shows a sign of investment and caring for your friend.  The second one:  Spend “real” time together.   This means that when you are around this person the time together is quality time.  Do not just think a Facebook message or a text message is good enough, it is not. To have a meaningful relationship you need to talk face-to-face or voice- to-voice.  The person needs to know that you are their in person talking, reacting, and listening to them.  The third one: Make a special effort that demonstrates your commitment and caring.  This means learn and invest into your friend.  Learn what they value as signs of affection.  My sister took a class one time that listed the seven affirmation some were gifts, kind words, doing things for the person, quality time, etc.  Everyone in my family took the quiz and we each figured out which one each of the affirmation we were.  We did not need the quiz to tell us which each of us was and preferred.  We know each other well enough that we already know it.  That is what you need to have a meaningful relationships.  You have to know and show the person in your life that they are special and mean a lot to you. (Three Secrets to Creating Happier, More Meaningful Relationship).

Meaningful relationships can be hard.  It is quality time spent with someone, making time to talk to them personally, and showing that person you care.  However two meaningful relationships are better then ten relationships.  So here is your challenge: make a list of the people in your life.  Put check marks by those that are people you want a meaningful relationship with, draw a x in all the others.  That does not mean that you are not nice and kind to them, but they are not the people that you want that quality relationship with.   

Sources:

Three Secrets to Creating Happier, More Meaningful Relationship http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/prescriptions-life/200909/three-secrets-creating-happier-more-meaningful-relationships

The Huff Post Healthy Living: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/nancy-colier/relationship-advice_b_3736493.html